Mar 24, 2011
Mike Heinz
GROUP LEADER REFERENCE CHART:
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JAG grade
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Leaders:
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6th Girls
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Andrea Edwards
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6th Boys
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Jeff Harding/ Mike Heinz
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7th Girls
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Lori Marshall/ Alycia Vaden
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7th Boys
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Doug Smith/ Chris Beach (Doc)
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8th Girls
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Faith French/ Suzanne Lovett
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8th Guys
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Seth Watson/ Randy McDonald
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HSM grade
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Leaders:
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9th Girls
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Cindy Borg/ Kerin Dippel
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9th Guys
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Seth Muse
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10th Girls
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Leslie Rortvedt/Addi Ledford
Jill Lide/ Shandra Davis
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10th Guys
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David Lincon, Tony Ledford
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11th Girls
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Angel Angell, Carrie Herbert
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11th Guys
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Jeff Harding, Joe Bontrager
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12th Girls
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Kathryn Peter, Becky Lucas
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12th Guys
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Jordan Greenwald, Denis Apira
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Mar 12, 2011
Mike Heinz
Name: ___________________________________________
Please submit all nominations no later than Sunday, March 27th!
Category: Partnering with Parents
This partner goes the extra mile, taking time to connect with parents. They recognize the value in partnering with parents to lead students to a growing relationship with Christ.
Nominee: ___________________________________________________________________
Reason: _____________________________________________________________________
Category: Consistent Contact
This partner is known for their frequency of contact with their students. They do this through consistent attendance and contacting their students outside of regular ministry programs.
Nominee: ___________________________________________________________________
Reason: _____________________________________________________________________
Category: Biblical Truth
This partner seeks whole-heartedly to communicate bible truth to students, in a creative and relevant way. The leader demonstrates our church’s core value of biblical truth in how they model the application of Biblical Truth in their life.
Nominee: ___________________________________________________________________
Reason: _____________________________________________________________________
Category: Authentic Community
This partner welcomes students into Student Ministry and Community Group with a smile and warm greeting. They make others feel at home and want to be around them. They create an atmosphere where the church’s value of authentic community can be experienced.
Nominee: ___________________________________________________________________
Reason: _____________________________________________________________________
Category: Missional Living
This partner exudes a passion for the advancement of God’s Kingdom outside our church walls. This is reflected in their ministry as well as their everyday life. Ultimately they model our church’s core value of missional living.
Nominee: ___________________________________________________________________
Reason: _____________________________________________________________________
Category: Leaving a Legacy
This partner has grasped what it means to pass on the faith to the next generation. They encourage student’s in their spiritual growth, as well as identifying their skills and challenging them to service. They model with our church’s core value of leaving a legacy.
Nominee: ___________________________________________________________________
Reason: _____________________________________________________________________
Category: Miscellaneous
FSM’s Vitamin C (Compassion) Volunteer
This partner goes above and beyond to care for students when they need it most. In those moments of crisis this partner is there demonstrating God’s love for our students.
Nominee: ___________________________________________________________________
Reason: _____________________________________________________________________
Category: Family Service
Showcases families that realize the importance of serving and thereby serve as a family unit within birth-12th grade ministry.
Nominee: ___________________________________________________________________
Reason: _____________________________________________________________________
Feb 25, 2011
Mike Heinz
Speaking of sex...
Elizabeth had just recently turned thirteen. She walked into her room at the end of a typical day of school. At the end of her bed was an unfamiliar book with a letter in it. She opened the letter and it read; "Read this book and then return it to my top dresser drawer. ~Mom"
The book contained the basics about sexuality for a teen-age girl. Some of the content was very helpful, but much of it left many unanswered questions. Elizabeth was left to figure the rest out on her own. Her youth group was nearly as shy about the topic as her parents. The only additional help she received was over-hearing a substantial conversation her youth pastor had with the guys on a weekend retreat. She was all ears, and learned more than she ever wanted to know!
Why are many of us so shy about talking to our kids and teens about sex? After all, they are the result of a sexual union:) Hey, we could start there, right? Sex is a good thing and we need to communitcate the truth about sex to them often and creatively.
"Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." John 8:32 NIV
Take the initiative in talking to your teen! Set an appointment with them and tell them what you want to talk them about. Ask them questions and let them ask questions even if you have to get back to them on certain topics. Biblically based books on sex are good if you are able to work through it with your teen. It may make us as parents uncomfortable, but it is worth it for the freedom our kids will get from knowing the truth.
You probably don't want to lead in with; "Congrats, you are the result of a sexual union!" You may not get very far... But, asking simple questions that open the door for basic dialogue is KEY!!!
~Tell your teen you want to talk about the issue of sex. Write down some questions to start the conversation and to foster dialogue. It may take a few tries to finally have a substantial discussion. These are a few examples of questions to foster dialogue:
- Do you think sex is good or bad?
- What are some lies about sex that you know of?
- Why do you think God gave us sex?
- Do you understand what it means to have sex?
- What could happen if you do have sex?
- Who do you feel like you can talk to about it?
- Why do think is so difficult to talk about sex?
- Do you think people should wait until marriage to have sex? Why?
- What are the steps that lead to having sex?
- What do you want to ask me about sex?
- Do you want to go through a book together to learn more truth?
Pray, take a deep breath and go for it! The world is not shy about slamming our kids with their twisted messages. Let's get bold and share the truth so they can live in freedom!!
Need a resource to help in this process?
Jan 21, 2011
Jeff Jones
I know it’s something you don’t want to talk about. Honestly, it makes me sad to think about it too.
Let’s be honest though…if we don’t talk about it now, it will be here before we know it, and we won’t be prepared to deal with it.
Graduation…
It’s one of those milestone moments in life, a reference point in your life story and most often the springboard to life’s next big adventure. If you’re like me you find yourself asking…
Are they ready for what’s next?
Then there is you, the parent. Your role is going to change from having direct influence into your student’s daily decisions to that of an advisor or mentor. If you’re like my parents were, you’re asking…
Am I ready for what’s next?
FSM would like to partner with you to prepare your student for this next stage of their journey with Christ. On January 30 (12:30-1:00pm) in the Student Center we will hold a meeting for seniors and their parents to talk about how to use the time you have left with your student. We want to launch them well, so you can experience the peace of mind that comes with knowing you have done your part to set them up for a successful transition.
Looking forward to sharing in this milestone with you and your family!
Dec 03, 2010
Mike Heinz
Teen Rebellion- It's not natural
She has been hanging out with a different crowd lately. They are not her usual friends and now she is starting to dress differently. Her vocabulary and tone of voice are a little more sassy. And, she has begun to show less interest in routine family affairs. Worst of all, she no longer receives the affection you used to give her. "Oh no, is my daughter starting to rebel?" Probably not, but pay close attention. Most teens start to become their own person by moving out from under their parent's wings. Don't fret; this is not an indictment on your parenting effort.
It's normal and is healthy for students as early as 10, 11 and 12. The reality is that they are moving toward adulthood even though it very much distresses us as parents. It is our job to help them move toward responsible adulthood and away from childhood. As parents, we need to continually adjust our level of control the older our kids become. Very soon, we will only be able to influence them and not enforce their way of living when they are paying their own rent and grocery bill. Giving them a say in how they operate under our roof is part of helping them take personal responsibility. Read how Jesus started moving toward His own personal responsibility and away from the loving protection of His earthly parents in Luke 2:41-52 (If your teen is rebelling and raging <not to be confused with normal teen agitation and moodiness> and putting their life at risk, consider this series of articles~ http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/parenting_challenges/teen_rebellion.aspx)
Below is a conversation template to begin helping your teen take more responsibility when it comes to the rules they must live by. If they can own it and understand it, it will help inoculate them against the crazy behavior of other teens around them. The following is from "Yes, your teen is crazy" by Michael J. Bradley
- Opening Premise- The presenter (teen or parent) gets to say what she wants to see happen.
- Opening Response- The audience (teen or parent) initially reacts to the proposal, without saying yes or no. If you are the audience, you should always acknowledge some respect for your kid’s position.
- Delineation of potential problems- First, the presenter tells the audience what possible problems she sees in the request. Then the audience adds his own issues.
- Problem Solving- Both parties now develop solutions to the problems raised. This step may involve research or gathering more facts needed for the decision.
- Summation and Clarification- Both parties state where they are in the process. If there’s agreement, shake hands. If not, go to the next step.
- Compromises and Alternative seeking- If the parties can’t agree outright, possible alternative positions are developed. If no agreement is reached, go to the next step.
- Final Options- Here the irresolvable differences are summarized as objectively and respectfully as possible. Options for re-evaluating the situation at a later date are discussed, along with conditions that might allow for a different outcome in the future.
Rules without relationship=rebellion
Relationship without rules=resentment
- ~Pray
- ~Look for the positives in your teen
- ~Show them respect
- ~Argue with honor; keep your cool <Don't give them permission to rage by raging yourself>
- ~Don't give up on them
- ~Seek veteran parents for wisdom/support
- ~Pray some more
