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Grace-based Families
Dr. Tim Kimmel
 
 
Introduction:  Plates, Saucers, Platter
 
Scripture: Colossians 3:18-21
 
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting to the Lord. Husbands, love
your wives and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in
everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not embitter your children,
or they will become discouraged.  Colossians 3:18-21
 
• “submit” = ducking so God can hit your husband.
 
• Jesus isn’t asking women to do something that He himself isn’t
willing to do.  
 
• Husbands: love.
 
• Love is the commitment of my will to your needs and best
interests, regardless of the cost.  
 
• Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Chyrist loved
the church and gave himself up for her …
 
• Children – obey because this is right. Right = good, smart, wise,
in your ultimate best interests.  
 
• “Life is tough. It’s tougher if your stupid.”  John Wayne
 
• Embitter: erathizo – to do something that causes them to resent
you.
 
Set up “culture of grace” within a home.
 
Illustration: temperature within the room …
 
Optional Scripture:  Luke 2:39-52
 
 Jesus grew up in a grace-based family.
 

I.  Grace based families give the people they love the freedom
to be different.
 
Illustration:  One of the best ways to give children the freedom to be
different is by allowing the differences between husband and wife to  
be freely expressed:  
 
Different: weird, bizarre, strange, goofy, quirky
   
1.  Often our children’s differences embarrass us.
 
2.  Often our children’s difference annoy us.  
 
Illustration: Colt’s Mohawk
 
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not
depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
 
--Weaknesses are usually strengths pushed to an extreme.
 
Grace-based families allow children the freedom to be different.
 
 
II.  Grace based families give the people they love the freedom
to be vulnerable.
 
1. They don't have to wear masks.
 
2.  They can verbalize their doubts and fears.
 
3.  Their vulnerabilities can come to the surface without fear of
them being attacked.
 
Illustration:  9th grade gym class … hole in my sock.
 
4.  We turn vulnerabilities into strengths when we voice approval
and give them affections.
 
"But He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is
made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly
about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me."  II Cor.
12:9
 
  
"Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so
that you may know how to answer everyone." Col. 4:6
 
Grace-based families allow children the freedom to differant and
vulnerable.
 
III.  Grace based families give the people they love the
freedom to be candid.
 
1. We need to give the people we love a respectful outlet for
telling us what’s on their heart—even if it’s something we’re not
excited about hearing.  
 
2. We are to keep them under control, not control them.
 
3. When we control: we deflate them, but when we keep them
under control, we empower them.
 
4. They have the option to voice their disappontments in us.
 
"See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root
grows up to cause trouble and defile many." Heb. 12:15
 
Illustration:  Cody wanting me to sign him out for opening day of the
Diamondbacks.
 
Grace-based families allow children the freedom to be different,
vulnerable, and candid.
 
IV.  Grace based families give the people they love the freedom
to make mistakes.
 
Illustration:  Getting ready for church.
 
If home is where life makes up its mind, then home must be a place
where disappointments are tolerated, where hurts are endured, and
where mistakes never mean the end of a relationship.
 
Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may
receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.  Hebrews 5:16
 
My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor be discouraged when
you are rebuked by him; for whom the Lord loves he chastens.  Hebrews
12:5-6
  
 
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still
sinners, Christ died for us.  Romans 5:8
 
Closing: Gospel
 
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